Ascend Accountability Partners
Help someone overcome a porn habit and gain sexual integrity.
Ascend 90-Day Sexual Integrity Training needs your support as an Accountability Partner
Ascend Accountability Partner FAQs
What do I do?
You simply receive the participant’s text message, read it and reply. They will report about their habit and maybe something more. Your job is to “listen” to them in this way, and respond with compassion and encouragement. That’s it.
Ascend participants are encouraged to report by text every day, this promotes self-awareness. However, many will text just a few times a week instead. If the AP and participant feel it would be beneficial, they can call or Skype together occasionally, but this isn't required.
How much time does this take?
About five minutes a day and sometimes much less. Some AP’s have reported being able to respond to 5 or more participants in just 10 minutes a day.
How much do I need to know?
Just that they are caught in the grip of a habit that’s difficult to get free from. You don’t need to know much more than normal life wisdom. However, you can watch our short videos that give a brief summary of points about pornography addiction and recovery if you'd like to know more.
How trained do I need to be?
Nothing more than trained by your own life experiences. You already have the necessary compassion, listening skills, wisdom and coachability or you would not have been asked!
What kind of support do you provide? What do I do if I run into a situation where I have questions?
We are making a resource page for you where you can find tips, access to each other and to John Williams on staff.
What are the benefits?
The satisfaction of knowing that you’re contributing to someone’s freedom from a destructive habit. You may also be helping a young adult develop sexual integrity in preparation for their marriage blessing, or helping a blessed couple save their marriage. You’ll learn a lot about life, love and yourself, and this could become a mutually rewarding relationship that will continue beyond the 90 days.
Do I need to have a background of porn recovery?
No. You just need to have had some experience with overcoming a bad habit, or developing personal discipline and integrity in some area of life!
If I've been in recovery myself, how long should I have been sober?
Six months of real control, even with an odd lapse, is okay. You want to have a good amount of victory and wisdom behind your words, even for your own confidence. Also, you don’t want to be easily triggered by what the participant may tell you.
How do I start?
Just let us know and we'll offer your contact information to Ascend participants. When they send their first text, you’ve started! The first week or so, you naturally might want to ask them basic information, and a little about their story. Otherwise, just read their texts and respond encouragingly.
Can I take on more than one participant?
Yes! It will be more gratifying and interesting to work with several participants at the same time. You’ll get a better understanding of what participants struggle with and what helps them overcome.
You’ll also get a better understanding of the scope of High Noon’s work, and we would be grateful for your help! We will most likely always have more participants than Accountability Partner volunteers.