How I Broke Free From Porn—NOT Alone
Kudos to Francis for sharing his story and living a High Noon life!
How did pornography impact your life?
I started watching porn mainly out of curiosity about sex. However, it quickly turned into something I would go to when I was bored or frustrated. Luckily, I never reached the point where I was watching porn every day, but if it had not been for High Noon's recovery process, I might have gotten to that point.
I would say that pornography had a negative impact on my relationships with other girls and made me think of sex in a way that is likely not ideal and is not about love. Because of porn, my concept of sexuality was all about the pleasure and intensity and not at all about the emotion or love that is so deep in sex. It affected the way I viewed others, relationships, and even affected my motivation to pursue a relationship that could result in marriage.
At what point did you say enough was enough?
I entered into a serious relationship in 2016 and decided that I could not continue watching pornography. I realized that it felt like I was being disloyal to my partner and pornography affected the way I valued her. I wanted my first real sexual experience to be about the love I had for my partner rather than the desire I had for sexual pleasure. I knew that overcoming this struggle with porn was essential to creating a lasting relationship of real love.
What helped you quit for good?
What made the difference for me was that I was surrounded by others who wanted the same things I wanted. We all wanted to overcome this struggle and were serious about being intentional through the course. Being surrounded by others who are being intentional in their actions and are supportive is the best way to overcome any challenge. In my opinion, we are not meant to overcome these challenges alone. I was part of High Noon's weekly check-in call for about 8 months and this helped me tremendously to overcome my struggle with porn and be free to prepare for a genuine and lasting relationship.
Thank you for your openness and having sexual integrity!