The Importance of Shifting Your Identity

Hello High Nooners!

I wanted to chat with you about something that's close to my heart - the daunting, yet transformative journey of changing our identities in life. Sometimes we find ourselves entangled in behaviors or substances that become more than just habits; they become part of who we think we are.

Let me share a story with you. I’m sure you’ve all met someone who identifies as a smoker. It is more than just an activity or behavior, for the person smoking, it because part of the story they tell about themselves. The type of cigarettes they smoke, the lighter they use, the ceremonial aspect of when they imbibe in their addiction, it’s all a part of their overall sense of self (identity).

I've also met folks who struggled with drinking. It wasn't just about the alcohol; it was the routine, the camaraderie with friends, and the sense of belonging. They feared that without their favorite drink, they wouldn't be the same person, and life would lose its luster. That’s why alcoholics are typically asked to form a new circle of friends who don’t drink, in order to forge a new identity.

It's not just with substances; we see this pattern with other addictions too, like pornography. The routine, the cravings, the sense of familiarity - it all intertwines with our sense of self. We begin to identify as "addicted," believing it's who we're destined to be.

Changing our identity is no easy feat. It's like saying goodbye to an old friend, a friend that you once relied on, even if they weren't good for you. It's scary to think about who we'd be without our addiction, what our life would look like, and whether we could even function.

But here's the thing: you are not your addiction. Your identity is not confined to one aspect of your life. You are a complex, beautiful soul with unlimited potential for growth and transformation.

Here are some practical ways in which you can start swapping your old identity for one that serves you better:

Celebrate every step forward, no matter how small. What you focus on envelops your attention, so why not focus on the progress you’re making in order to create a positive feedback loop.

Surround yourself with a support network that cheers you on. Talk to friends, family, or seek help from a trusted elder if need be. You don't have to do this alone. Having someone to lean on can make a world of difference.

And most importantly, be kind to yourself. Changing your identity is a courageous endeavor, and it's okay to stumble along the way. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a friend going through a similar journey.

As you contemplate the possibility of change, know that it is within your reach. Believe in your capacity to evolve, embrace a new identity, and discover a life that aligns with your true values and aspirations.

It's okay to feel scared and uncertain, but let that be the fuel that propels you forward. You are stronger than you realize, and you have the power to create a future that shines brightly with newfound hope and possibility.

The road ahead may be winding, but remember, you have the strength, the resilience, and the potential to transform your life. Embrace the journey, cherish the growth, and welcome the beautiful evolution of your identity.

You've got this, and we’re here rooting for you every step of the way!