A popular answer is, “When a person’s words and actions align.” You can even go a layer deeper and say, “When a person’s thoughts and actions align.”

Change can be difficult. We're constantly sabotaged by powerful feelings that send us running back to our habits. Habits feel safe and comforting, completely the opposite of the feelings that we're running from.

I started using pornography when I was 15 years old. Because of pornography, I had a lot of problems, but the biggest problem for me was the fact I couldn't talk and pray to God honestly. Every time I prayed, I felt so ashamed.

A letter that we received from a young man after we gave a presentation on the effects of pornography at the Global Top Gun Youth workshop in 2018.

Part of recovery from a porn habit is to gain a better understanding of a healthy sexual relationship. However, if you’re single it’s best to think as little about sex as possible while you’re recovering from a porn habit. Married couples should do some research on the subject of lovemaking.

Spouses are not independent beings sharing a living space. If there’s something on your mind, your spouse will know. Even if you walk in the door with a smile, if you’re feeling troubled or upset, your spouse will pick up on this. You don’t just share a bed and body parts, sexual intimacy creates an emotional sensitivity to each other.

Loneliness is a common trigger for porn use, but a porn habit can also cause you to disconnect from the people who love you the most. So, it’s a vicious cycle, after the temporary comfort porn gives, you’ll end up feeling lonelier in the long run.

The term "Sexual Integrity" sounds good, noble and upright. But many psychologists, often thinking in fuzzy terms, equate integrity only with individualistic values and honesty. They'll tell you that you have sexual integrity as long as you're being honest about your sexual likes and dislikes.

If you're married or engaged and you discover that your partner views porn, it can be a shock. It can throw you off balance and make you question your relationship. In some cases, if your spouse has been lying and hiding a secret habit, it can be devastating. But you're not alone, and there's help.

If photography and video didn't exist, would you have the same type of images in your mind? You would still have mental images, but where would those pictures come from, and what would they look like?

Internet software is helpful in protecting children from early exposure to porn, but it's not foolproof. A school friend may have porn on their smartphone or tablet. Kid's can easily access porn on TV, Netflix, and in the local library as well as their school library.

What would compel you to be committed to a cause? Well, the cause is you—your life. How will you reach your goals and fulfill your dreams? You can find your strongest motivation by envisioning your future.

Let's face it—the people you spend time with have an impact on your life. It's important to set boundaries because anyone can be influenced, no matter how independent you are.

With perseverance and support, many people have overcome their unwanted sexual habits and built productive lives and beautiful families. It's important to hear such stories and keep them in mind to stay motivated, especially as you go through difficult times.

A key to success in life is to know your strengths and weaknesses. Business partnerships, friendships, and marriages all benefit when strengths and weaknesses are balanced, and there's someone else to be accountable to. Basically, we need the support of others to achieve our goals.

No child is safe from the aggressive pursuit of internet porn. If your neighbor was trying to get your child's attention for inappropriate activities you'd report it to the police. Unfortunately, it's much harder to catch online predators, and they're much closer to home than your neighbor.

I just found myself looking for a hit of chocolate, after having been reminded of its lusciousness by a recent serving of my wife’s decadent dark chocolate cake. Studies show 15 percent of men join me in this occasional craving, and a full four out of ten women.

Anyone supporting another through recovery should strive to take the role of an encourager. You can acknowledge that change is difficult, but express confidence in the person’s ability to begin again.

Children are the silent victims of porn. Not just the children who get abused and photographed and raped, but also your children. Children who grow up in a culture that tolerates sexual crime are always in danger.